Dear Cherished Friends,
This week we are going to talk about something that, especially as adults, seems to be a very prevalent issue: FEAR. Fear prohibits us from doing SO MANY things!!! The older we get, the more FEARful we become.
Think of a small child and how fearless they are - they are willing to try just about anything (including putting random things in their mouth). They are fully engaged in wanting to have the full experience of life.
Adults monitor dangerous situations for children; keeping them from harm (and from putting random things in their mouths) however we also instill our fear of new experiences into them.
I was always very conscientious about allowing my sons to experience life from their perspective. I was an experiential mom because that's how I live my life. I recognize and honor the experiences of those who have gone before me but their life is not my life.
How can we know what life looks like based on another person's perspective?
We FEAR what we know and we FEAR what we don't know.
We FEAR things that have happened and we FEAR what might happen.
We FEAR doing things and we FEAR not doing things.
FEAR has become a major contributor to living comfortably uncomfortable.
FEAR stops us in our tracks and causes us to get stuck in life; leading to indecision, missed opportunities and, most importantly, REGRET.
FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real
3 Ways to Conquer FEAR
#1 - Go ahead and take yourself into FEAR.
Most of the time what we fear never materializes and by taking yourself through the "worst-case scenario" process, you will be able to have a clearer vision of the possible (or not-so-possible) outcome.
Ask yourself, "What is the WORST thing that could happen?"
#2 - Weigh the REGRET factor.
Replace the word "mistake" with the word "lesson". To me, there are no mistakes. There are only lessons. We learn through our choices; right, wrong or indifferent. Additionally, I want to live a life of no regrets and one way to do this is to work through fear and allow lessons to happen.
Ask yourself, "Will I regret it MORE if I don't do it vs. doing it?"
#3 - Get into CHILD-MODE and approach the situation with a fresh perspective.
STOP all the noise in your head, the voices from the past and all the chatter that prohibits you from moving through the fear. Yes, we've lived life. Yes, we've had experiences: good and bad. Yes, we have the ability of discernment.
We have to get out of the habit of overlaying our fear on experiences that may be wonderful, magical and refreshing.
Look at the situation from the eyes of a child and ask yourself, "What would a child do?"
Here are a few of my favorite books on overcoming fear:
1) Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
3) Love is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky, MD
Here's to conquering FEAR, Amy
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